Red flags include:
- requests for “temporary” loans,
- pushing to merge finances quickly,
- suggesting updates to wills or beneficiaries,
- asking to transfer property or accounts,
- encouraging distance from children or friends.
Real love doesn’t demand financial sacrifice. Manipulative love does.
4. Two complete lives… trying to merge
At 60, you’re no blank slate—you’re a whole story: habits, routines, values, family, history, losses, and long-held beliefs. And the other person has their own story too.
This makes compatibility trickier. Differences in lifestyle, routines, family expectations, or even politics can clash hard.
And here’s the truth:
Changing long-established habits is harder with age—not because of stubbornness, but because our brains are less flexible.
You don’t have to move in together for the relationship to be meaningful.
Many couples thrive with a “together but living separately” arrangement that preserves independence and prevents unnecessary conflict.
5. The emotional trap of desire and intima:cy
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